A bit late on the band wagon (2015)

Welcome, welcome

If you're familiar to my blog, you might be wondering why I'm saying welcome - well did you notice the name change? Soon enough it will be called whereeverinwonderland.co.uk - it's just currently still being set up. This blog has had a fresh start; unfortunately late last year it got wiped down but I've finally got it back and I thought I'd give the blog a new start, for the new year. 

So welcome to: Wherever in Wonderland (tbc)

 I thought since this is my first post for the new year, it would only be fitting and appropriate to do this post about what I'm expecting to gain out of 2015. 

Now for anybody who knows me personally or if you have read my old posts (which are still live, so you can go back and re-read them) then you'll be well aware that 2014 wasn't a great year for my health or me as a person. There are a lot of personal aspects that I'll never go into on here or even with my friends. However - I'm fed up of, all of that now. No I'm not 100% and that's what I want 2015 to be - it's going to be a very selfish year for myself, and why the f^ck not. 

So I wrote down my list of personal goals, and I'm going to share them with you and see if you can relate/want to add to your own list: (these get deep)

1. Find out who I am

2. Become the best version of myself

3. Work my arse off to achieve everything I want to achieve

4. Weekly workouts

5. Up my blog game

6. Find happiness

7. Learn to accept love

8. Become more open minded 

9. Learn to love myself and others around me

10. Be grateful/thankful - everyday 

11. Laugh more

12. Finish writing my book 

13. Read 1 - 2 books every month

14. Practice on my creative skills

15. Travel to at least 3 places (outside the UK)

16. Save more money 

17. Start using a film camera again

Never give up or look back. Everything so far has been a lesson gained or a mistake made, and now it's time to take your knowledge and put it to good use.

I personally want to become the best person I physically can be, I want to carry myself well and be proud of who I am everyday. 

This year is the year of me.

"Beautiful things happen when you let go of negativity"

- unknown 

So what're your goals for 2015? Is it a year of personal development or a year of working with others? 

Which ever it is, I hope you find the happiness you deserve.

Until next time my loves, 

ttfn

x

Happiness. Health. Success

Not a new year, but still a new you

Hey, you! 

Sorry it's been so long, I've had a pretty hectic month and I've finally just found some time to sit down and start sorting something's out for myself. 

It's around this time of year when the New Year starts looming and we start using the excuse in the back of our minds 'New year, new me'. We start putting change off because we're soon going to have a list and each year the resolutions are the same and so's the out come, usually (failed). 

This month I've had to make some pretty tough decisions and I've put myself in positions which could've been the best or worst ever. 

I decided that enough was enough with something's and came to the conscious decision it was about time I started looking after myself. 

I'm sure we all have our days when we decide we're in need for a change or a situation happens and that change becomes inevitable. But it's the adapting or finding the strength and cracking on with it that's the toughest part.

There's no rule on how many times you can turn over a new leaf for yourself and there's no expiry date on change.  

So if there's something on your mind you've wanted to do for a while, or a change you're wanting to make - then do it! I couldn't encourage people enough to do what they want to do. At the end of the day, you can't expect the people around you to be happy for you if you're not happy with yourself.

Some decisions are harder than others, but if you know in your gut instinct that you want it happen, make it happen. You may have to say bye to some people or to some things in your life, but when one door closes, another will open. 

I've decided to dedicate the end of this year and next year to getting myself better, my girls, going travelling, becoming fit and finally getting my paws on a pair of Christian Louboutins. 

If I can achieve those starting today, I can honestly say I'll be 100% happy with myself. 

So what's on your mind that you've wanted to change? Is there something that's been bugging you for a while but you haven't had the courage to go get it? Well, today's your day - so go get it!

Hopefully the gap won't be too long until I see you again.

Until next time my loves, 

Strive for happiness and keep smiling. 

TTFN 

xxx

Let go of the bad to make way for the good

As human beings it's hard to be 100% happy all the time, if not impossible. We get bad news, sad news or just down right heart breaking news day to day or when we least expect it, no matter when it is, it's can some times feel like a constant struggle to perk yourself up. You're often sat asking yourself or someone near and dear when is it going to be over? When will the light at the end of the tunnel finally blind your eyes with happiness?

Happiness is a tricky one. It can come as easily as it can disappear, they're all types of happiness. Whether it's from your close friends and family, to having your dream job or even being spoilt by your other half with Christian Louboutins or just something cheeky like your favourite packet of sweets. It really does arrive in all shapes and sizes with a little bow on the top. 

And then there's something I've named minipulation happiness. It's the happiness that happens usually over a love interest or a 'close' friend and it's when you're in the frame of mind that they make you happy when actually all they do is make you a living misery and everybody around you can see it. They say love is blind, that I truly believe. 

-- This is the false sense of happiness which turns more into need. You feel like you need this person, or like they've cast a spell on you! Usually this type of false happiness/sense of need will happen after a break up or a certain incidences' depending on your situation. 

But no matter how much you think you need this person, ask yourself; are they really making me happy? 

Truly happy.. Do they have you crying of a night or turning your friends against you? 

I won't lie, I'm guilty of allowing this to happen to me. Sometimes you don't realise it's even happening until you take a step back. You need to put your happiness (solo happiness) first. Realise you don't need them and you're better off, trust me - - the world won't stop spinning, even if they're not around. 

Usually you can find happiness in the smallest of things, just the things you get nothing but enjoyment out of. It's helpful to remind yourself of this from time to time. Just so you don't leave yourself short. 

What makes you happy without relying on other people? 

Mine would definitely be; Horses, my cat Molly, animals in general, hot chocolate, The Sims, freshly painted nails, candles, duvet days, new pjs, log fires, long walks, slippers, the country side, arm chairs, bungalows, rich tea and reading Alice in Wonderland. 

Can you tell I'm 20 going on 60? Just call me Nana K! 

It can sometimes be the most simplistic which can make you happy and you just need to remind yourself. So if you're having a rough time or feeling a little low, do what makes you happy and puts a smile on your face, just for you. Without worrying about other people, just be there for yourself; you might even thank yourself for it afterwards. 

Always try and think of the positive even if you don't think you can. You've got to find the light even when you're at your darkest. 

Thank you for reading, until next time my loves 

TTFN <3 

Also.. 

How can you not look at this photo and just be happy? 

Bye now! Xxx