There's no comparison

I guess in this day and age it's not uncommon as young men and women to constantly compare ourselves to what else is out there in the big wide world.
We're constantly bombarded by social media and shown what every one else has and what we 'should' want. 

Not only are we shown in magazines but as a new generation finding our feet we're also shown by ads on Facebook and the like. Even places such as YouTube have become a massive part of our daily social media and as a young woman I watch a lot of beauty Youtubers and fashionistas;
I've watch them grow over the years from just making short videos on their bed to moving out, getting gorgeous apartments and getting to travel here, there and everywhere to meet 'fans'. Don't get me wrong I'm incredibly proud of everyone I've watched over the 6 years and what they've achieved for themselves.

Then there are the massive icons, what girl doesn't want to be a Kardashian? Or have the life they have? I constantly see people uploading images on Facebook and Instagram of the Kardashian family and claiming all kinds of related things from wanting their life style and image to their personality! Now I'm not going to lie, if I could have Kylies face, Kendalls figure and Kim's bank account - would I heck complain, I'd be loving life! 

But things are starting to become poisonous in this day and age don't you think? The claim to fame is on the rise, most young impressionable women will do whatever it takes to be noticed, inc facial reconstruction, severe diets and a prime example - threatening a abortion to go into the BB house and then use the birth of said child as some sort of West End show! 

So when did all this pressure of 'being perfect' start to happen? Obviously huge icons have always been there, before our time. Marilyn Monroe and Audrey Hepburn still have as much as an influence now as they did back then, if not more. Who doesn't love a giant canvas from IKEA of Audrey's face ay?? 

What I'm trying to get at with out going off on a tangent too much (my usual) is when did it become acceptable for zero to become the desired size? When did it become acceptable for girls to start changing their faces and life style just for that little bit more recognition? 

I'm only talking about a selective type, I can't speak for everybody and this isn't a documentary on the youth of today. 

It's fantastic to have a role model, to want to inspire to something more. But you have to realise you're in your own skin, and it's beautiful. You need to learn to love yourself for who you are just as much as somebody in this world will love you for what they see through their eyes. 

When did the population become so scared to just be? To fear what they want to look like and to be scrutinised for the size they want to be? (Talking 'plus' size in particular). 

People need to start being happy in the skin they're in (easier said, I know). As much as you admire a person or no matter how strong your desire is to become that person.. News flash! You're not. You're you! You might not have the perfect eyebrow arch like Kylie, or millions in your bank account like Kimmy K. You might not have the waist of Cara Delevingne or the hair of a girl off the L'oreal advert. However, you're worth it. You're worth being you. 

Give yourself a chance to be you and accept yourself for who you are, the skin you're in and the bank balance you have. There will always be somebody thinner and richer in this life, but instead of comparing yourself and making yourself ill trying to become that person. Embrase yourself, embrase the skin you're in. Be the best you can be and give the world the best you can offer. 

It becomes a poisonous cycle when you start comparing yourself - like I said, have a role model, we all do. But you shouldn't try to 'be' that person, because for all you know you could be somebody else's role model and they deserve the best and the most real version of you. 

The version of you which is supposed to be, not the version of you your obsessing so hard to become! 

Thank you for reading today's post my loves! 

For those back at school or starting a new form of education, as scary as it is now it's going to get easier - promise! Good luck and I hope you achieve what you're working towards!

Until next time guys - as always 

TTFN xxx