So what now?

So many of you are off to university this September I can imagine, and if you got into your preferred university on your desired course I think you owe yourself a pat on the back. 

University has always been a massive toss up for me, I don't have the best attention span/confidence so instead of trying and giving it ago, I just put it off. 

I think you need to find your neesh in life before you go getting yourself into thousands of pounds worth of dept, am I right? 

Its massive, especially over in the UK and other parts of the world to complete your A Levels and venture on into higher education. I think it's expected in most families now a days, and especially when you meet somebody new for the first time, more than likely one of their questions is going to be 'so what're you studying?'. 

There's a lot of pressure on the teens in our society these days unfortunately and I feel like university is something forced and pressured upon most rather than desired and wanted. 

Let's be honest with each other for a moment, we all have a reasonable opinion on why most teens go to university these days! The social life, duhhh!  

How many students across the UK leaving university with a degree of some sort go on to achieve their 'dream job' or something which ties in with their degree? 

Hmm.. Tough one! 

I'm 20 years old, I've studied a lot in my short 20 years and I've had more 'dreams' than you've had hot dinners. Each year since about 2005 the thought of my desired career has changed. My subject choices changed, my college courses were completed but I'd go back the following year and pick something else completely different. I started to think my family are thinking I'm just taking the p*** and I'm faffing around, and not achieving very much. 

- I'll hand it to them, that's partly true. At 20 it's only just dawned on me in the past few months what I want to do for the rest of my life, where I want to go and which career is the one I want to work my socks off to achieve. 

If you're not going to university this September don't beat yourself up, some people take a while longer to figure out their future, university isn't the be all and end all - just remember that. 

I don't believe in rushing into anything purely because it's expected. 

I believe if you aren't sure, don't jump. Take that time to figure out what you're really looking for, some of you may not want to go to university at all and shock horror - that's okay too. 

Your friends, family, cats or dogs, even the goldfish in the tank at the corner of your room should support you (hopefully) no matter what you decide to do with your life. 

You can't live your life to please others, otherwise you're never going to please yourself. 

Thank you for reading my short post, I promise more content will be coming - I've just had writers block over the past week (don't shoot me!). 

Take care my loves! 

TTFN 

xxx 

'I have a dream...'

“The future belongs to those who believe in the beauty of their dreams.” 
― Eleanor Roosevelt

So since I've had a lot of time to myself recently, I've been thinking about dreams. If you believe in all the Instagram quotes and the inspirational memes your best friend keeps sharing on Facebook, then your dream is just one moments clarity away from reality. Oh how it would be nice if the white words filtered against a typical hipster sunset background were true, wouldn't it?

If you're anything like myself right now, or you've had a lot of time to think things over recently then you've probably come to the conclusion that dreams are stupid.

For the longest time I've wanted to become a full time blogger, worker for a fashion magazine and even dip my toes into the pond of the whole 'YouTube world'. This is what I've wanted to do for so long, and I suppose I can give myself a small pat on the back since I have created a blog and kept up with frequent content as much as possible. *Pats back*.

For a long time I thought I'd grown out of this 'phase' of these dreams, I created a YouTube channel 23rd June 2009 - 6 years I've been trying to pluck up the courage to start doing what I wanted to do, and 6 years later I'm still on 4 subscribers. Now I'm only 20 years old, I often get told 'I'm still a baby' and since I look about 12 years old, that's not very hard to believe. But I like to think I've matured a lot in 6 years and I've got my shit together a little bit better... Emphasise on the 'little'. I think a lot of us think we've matured past these dreams that take up a lot of time, money, preparation and energy. But really, we keep dreaming... we just do it on a smaller less inspired scale.

"When I grow up I want to be a Princess who rides a multicoloured unicorn to princess school everyday and I want all my food to be covered in fairy dust so I can fly and go say hi to Peter, Wendy and the lost boys" -
Yeah, that's much more of a rational dream right there.

However when you're 5 years old and you've just been asked for the first time what you'd like to be when you grow up, nothing matters but everything is possible in that little imagination and you believe that you're going to get that multicoloured unicorn! But, adulthood is not the time to start giving up on your dreams, it's the time to honour and embrace them. But first you need to figure out what is worth inhabiting your 'dream space'. We need to dump the stupid, just brush it under the rug and make room for good, the golden, the jack pot baby!

Leave behind what distracts you from your goals. It's time to abandon the impossible. (It's hard I know, I'm still coming to terms with the fact I'm never going to get the chance to sing on stage with S club 7)!

When you abandon the impossible, you generally start to realise the unnecessary and the unwanted. Who wants the uptight girl who lives in a fantasy when you can have the girl who laughs about having whipped cream thrown in her face and lives in the real world of NOW.

These impossible dreams are a poor stand-ins for the real thing. They keep you fantasying rather than achieving and they negate the real value of all your efforts. You're worth a hell of a lot more than the inflated thought that's written in your dairy. Get shut of them.

Stop dreaming other peoples dreams, make your own happen. If you want 1,000,000 followers on Twitter or IG go hashtag every post until you can't physically move your fingers any more. You want that new car your friends daddy just brought for her? Go save your arse off (hard I know, but rewarding). If something isn't making you happy and you're just doing it because you've seen somebody else's happiness from what they've achieved and what they've had, stop being a sheep! It's time to become a Shepard!

True happiness is a deeper and more abiding experience than any of us are willing to admit most of the time. Let’s start seeking that kind of joy and let’s stop worrying about what everyone else is doing.

Who are you? What makes you happy? What are you doing when you feel the most fulfilled? Are you with your children? Are you creating? Career making? Cooking? Writing? Giving parking tickets? A mixture of a few things in different ratios?

Answer those questions and you’ll be closer to discovering what your souls been dreaming of than you've ever been.

Once you've got to know yourself that little bit better and you've figured out that little bit more about your hopes and your flaws. Embrace yourself and all your worth and make what you want to happen, HAPPEN! Whether it does take time, money and energy - you know that the outcome will be so rewarding that none of that will matter, because you've achieved your dream!!

I hope you've enjoyed this post, it's been one of my favourites to write! And until next time my loves; keep dreaming and keep smiling!

TTFN xxx